For those newly in love!


Most of us, who have lived life, know exactly how it feels…everything is just perfect, nothing can dampen your happiness. Everything is just “peachy”, nothing can stop the ever-loving enthusiasm of being in love. It’s a chemical imbalance of pure bliss. All the love and caress that transpires between those in love, is fascinating. Of course, I remember those feelings, but most of the time, they eventually dissipate and being comfortable sets in. Now, for some, it takes longer than others, but it’s one in the same. Eventually, things calm down and the reality of the relationship sets in. Oh, say it isn’t so! The decline of marriages have been, well, on the decline for some time now, and why is that? The thought of “falling out”, is increasingly becoming true for some, if not most. It’s a damn shame really. Marriages have problems, and it takes a strong marriage, to succeed in keeping things together. Easier said, than done! With anything from financial troubles, infidelity, emotional distress or domestic violence, it is an epidemic of grand proportions, that marriages are on the decline. 

Poor kids, I say. What better example of a secure marriage, than those of their parents. It always has an affect on the children, regardless of where in the world the marriage seems to fall apart….Now, we are all different, but it’s astonishing to notice, that a marriage, a closed-marriage anyway, if you will…does have a lasting feel to the children on how they will carry on the examples they have learned. 

Whoa! I got a bit side tracked their….back to the newly loved couples. What I want to know is, when does the relationship turn from seemingly beautiful love, companionship to the “uh oh, somethings not right”? Is it a text from an old fling, the avoidance of going to the same places of past loves? What is it? I don’t know, but it makes for a good study. 


About luis castillo

An introvert who enjoys reading, writing and journal entry and recently picked up iphoneography along the way. My "Walls of Solitude" is my sanctuary and where most, if not all of my writings scream through my fingertips.
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2 Responses to For those newly in love!

  1. mrphilgru says:

    I don’t know the secret for a long-lasting happy marriage. I recently met a couple in their late 50s. They’ve been married for 30 years now. When I asked her ‘What’s the recipe?’, she said “We used to spend most of our time apart, because he traveled for work a lot, and I was also lucky to have a job that involved a lot of traveling worldwide. I guess we never had a chance to get bored with being together.” So much of a married life. They don’t have children either.
    I guess it takes a little maturing from both partners to be able to work on a relationship that’s no longer romantic. As long as you think this person is not going anywhere, he/she will always be there and you can take him/her for granted – you’re not going anywhere nice. Growing apart may not be as tragic as domestic violence, but the effects are devastating all the same. Imagine your partner has a car crash, or dies of cancer, or leaves you for someone else. If it is relief that you feel, stop wasting both your own time and your partner’s time. Grow up and learn to face the truth instead of saying that ‘everything’s fine’. Nothing is fine. For some, it takes actually losing the one they thought they ‘fell out’ with to realize how much they love and need this person. Alas, human nature prefers to suffer.

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